Monday, December 26, 2011
Raising Kids with Wisdom
Raising kids can be the most demanding, time consuming, sleep depriving, stressful and wonderful time of your life. The spectacular little ones that you and your spouse created and brought into the world are growing into little people who have thoughts and ideas of their own. It is a splendid feeling watching your little babies grow into their own individual selves; however, it can be problematic once they start to use the word “no” or begin to talk back. This is when raising kids can become a battle between the child and the parents. Hold on tight because help is on the way!
Learn to Take Your Own Time-Out
Time-outs aren’t just for kids anymore. Sometimes, parents need to take their own time-outs in order to maintain their composure as well as their sanity. It can be brutal raising kids, especially once they start school and begin to mimic the behaviors of their classmates. This is one thing that can bring even the most harmonious and close-knit family to their knees.
Sometimes, a three-minute parent’s time-out can help. Of course don't leave your small children unattended, but a child who is school age should be fine for those three minutes while you calm yourself. During your time out, you should think of some inspirational quotes about the wisdom needed while raising kids, such as Charles Swindoll’s “Each day of our lives we make deposits in the memory banks of our children.” The famous advice columnist Ann Landers once said, "In the final analysis, it is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves that will make them successful human beings”. The use of quotes for wisdom may sound corny to some, but they are truly effective while you are trying to exercise your effective parenting skills.
Being Involved Is a Part of Good Parenting
Parents should not intrude on and be overbearing in their children’ lives. Allowing children to handle certain situations on their own helps them to become independent and strong individuals. However, there are aspects of your child’s life that you absolutely must be actively involved in as a part of your good parenting plan. You must spend quality time with your children and guide them.
Raising kids without active parental involvement can make them feel that they aren’t worthy of love, or not important enough to get your time. This can lead to self-esteem issues now, and later in life. Besides it can problems in child parent relationships. Therefore, be active in your children’ school and other activities. Showing your children that you are willing to forgo other things to ensure their success will instill the same wisdom in them, and they will in turn pass that onto future generations. Being supportive, helping your children with their problems, teaching them life's important lessons of honesty, patience and other good values and teaching them how to live with integrity is nurturing them to have success and happiness in their lives.